I think I’ve met my lifetime quota of meeting terrible, horrible, atrocious human beings.
March202012
February172012
What if Rihanna and Chris Brown get back together? || Feministing
After reports surfaced that Rihanna and Chris Brown were seen leaving the same recording studio, I knew that what would come next wasn’t going to be good. Now it’s confirmed: Rihanna and Chris Brown have collaborated on a remix of her song “Birthday Cake” and may have even spent time together at her recent birthday party.
Their reconciliation and what it means goes beyond them and could have serious ramifications on the conversation surrounding domestic violence.
It wouldn’t be surprising if Rihanna got back together with Chris Brown. Most women return to their abusers, repeatedly. What’s wrong with this scenario is that it is so public and has so many young impressionable eyes watching and unfortunately taking note. Furthermore, the conversation around domestic violence in the wake of the 2009 beating will surely be shut down for the most part because many will say, “well Rihanna got over it, why can’t you?”
October302011
“Caveat emptor, as they say. Buyer beware. And the same applies to spouse selection. If he’s going to be a jerk later in life, then chances are that he’s exemplified that type of behavior somewhere in his current life. How does he treat his mother? His friends? His sister? Does he have a relationship with Allah SWT? If he’s a smooth guy with a rough attitude – which many women fall for – I can’t say that represents that he’ll be an angel when he’s married. And yet, the tendency to choose otherwise just continues. And the women continue to complain how cruel men are. Subhanallah.”
Guy on my friend’s email list had this reply in regards to her claim that there is a high rate of domestic violence in Muslim communities.
FUCK YOU. Stop Victim blaming. Yes, every woman who has ever been domestically abused is simply someone who couldn’t help falling for a smooth man with a rough attitude. WTF IS THIS?
Yes, tell that to all the women who marry for ‘deen’ and end up being beaten the shit up.
I am so angry right now.
October292011
Prison Diaries: A Checkered Past
I probably should watch the entire thing, but to me it sounds like the woman used the gun as self defense.
August292011
![Battered But Not Beaten - 30 Mosques 30 States
[Saima is] one of many women here at Muslimat Al-Nisaa, a domestic violence shelter for Muslim women located in the heart of Baltimore. It might be the only shelter for battered Muslim women in this country. These women’s stories are a painful reminder of why the Muslim community can no longer sweep the issue of domestic violence under the rug…
Sara sits next to Saima and comforts her throughout the conversation. She grew up in England and speaks with a dash of British elegance when she articulates her story. She said when she first dealt with her husband’s abuse, she initially went to her local mosque for help, but to no avail. The men there either shrugged off her problems or said they didn’t know how to help.
“I’ll put it to you straight,” she said. “You Muslim men, not all of you, but the ones who pretend to be the best Muslims, you are ignorant. You look at your own daughters and sisters in a different way. You would treat them in a different way than other women in your community. You all have daughters and you all have sisters and mothers. It’s your job to protect the Muslim women in your community and stand up for them.”
Asma Hanif is the executive director of the center. She said when the shelter first opened in 2007, it was tough to get the Muslim community to support it because they were in denial the problem existed to begin with. Then came the case in 2009 when Aasiya Zubair was gruesomely beheaded by her husband
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Battered But Not Beaten - 30 Mosques 30 States
[Saima is] one of many women here at Muslimat Al-Nisaa, a domestic violence shelter for Muslim women located in the heart of Baltimore. It might be the only shelter for battered Muslim women in this country. These women’s stories are a painful reminder of why the Muslim community can no longer sweep the issue of domestic violence under the rug…
Sara sits next to Saima and comforts her throughout the conversation. She grew up in England and speaks with a dash of British elegance when she articulates her story. She said when she first dealt with her husband’s abuse, she initially went to her local mosque for help, but to no avail. The men there either shrugged off her problems or said they didn’t know how to help.
“I’ll put it to you straight,” she said. “You Muslim men, not all of you, but the ones who pretend to be the best Muslims, you are ignorant. You look at your own daughters and sisters in a different way. You would treat them in a different way than other women in your community. You all have daughters and you all have sisters and mothers. It’s your job to protect the Muslim women in your community and stand up for them.”
Asma Hanif is the executive director of the center. She said when the shelter first opened in 2007, it was tough to get the Muslim community to support it because they were in denial the problem existed to begin with. Then came the case in 2009 when Aasiya Zubair was gruesomely beheaded by her husband
August242011
Elif Shafak: Turkey opens its eyes to domestic violence
The introduction of electronic handcuffs for abusive husbands reflects a growing Turkish movement against honour killings
June42011
NOUR: Where There Is Injustice, You Will Find Justice - SuhaibWebb.com
Domestic violence is an issue within Islam which is intolerable; it is a sign of oppression, and Allah ‘azza wajal condemns oppression.
“…And Allah does not like the Thalimeen.” (oppressors, polytheists and wrong doers) (Qur’an, 3:57).
Levelling with injustice, justice also exists in this world and in the hereafter. Many of us know when one part of the ummah suffers, another part of the ummah does not sleep knowing another is suffering, and so they come together as one ummah against the injustice. The Prophet of Allah ﷺ (Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him) told us that this ummah is like one body, and when one part of the body is in pain, the other parts of the body also feels the pain.
What is Nour?
The name Nour in Arabic means angelic light, and thus a name that reflects peace, tranquillity and hope. It is a metaphor for the light at the end of the tunnel, to bring back hope in those who have fallen victims of the devastating sin of domestic violence. Nour launched its website in 2010 and has now earned the title of a non-profit charity.
Alhamdulillah, in 2009, two friends were discussing issues surrounding domestic violence that caused distress in the Muslim community. Yet, despite the number of charities out there campaigning against domestic violence, there was not a single charity aimed at Muslims who could be victims. From this discussion to the present day these two sisters are now the co-founders of NOUR and have taken that discussion into practise by helping the Muslim community who suffer from domestic violence.
‘We could have been angry or futilely reactive towards this frustration, but instead we decided to be pro-active’. -Mahfuja Ahmed CEO and Co-Founder of NOUR.
How is NOUR different?
What makes Nour stand out from all the rest is that they are able to recognise the Islamic faith and the sensitivity that comes with domestic violence. Unfortunately, many Muslims ignorantly adopt the false impression that Islam permits the act of domestic violence[1].
What are our goals?
Nour’s long term goals are to work towards strengthening the Muslim community, empowering Muslim women and men, and making sure that marriages are founded in solid union, not ones open to create oppression. With these aims, stronger family structures can thrive together in the community. And a nurturing environment is created for our children to grow in.
The Islamic Adviser of Nour, Imam Abdullah Hassan said,
‘This is a very sensitive issue in the Muslim community. Many women who fall prey to this vile behaviour do not come forward due to fear and also the insufficient knowledge on their part about where they may receive help. One of the ways they may contact the relevant people is by calling or e-mailing various projects and charities like NOUR and they will be dealt with with the utmost anonymity. Then an Islamic advisor may give general advice and specific instructions on how best to deal with their situation via written e-mail or if need be via telephone conversation if the victim so desires’.
How Nour can help you?
Nour provides Islamic, Health and Legal advice by those qualified. Anyone can contact the Muslim Community Helpine which is open Monday to Friday between the hours of 10am to 1pm and the caller will be treated with absolute confidentiality. If anyone has general queries online, they may e-mail Nour at: info@nour-dv.org.uk. The online service offers an Advisers Contact Form; here, anyone can explain their unique situation and receive a quick and effective response.
For more information such as what Islam has to say about the misconception of beating, and Nour’s recent events and updates, log onto the Nour website: www.nour-dv.org.uk.
For women who have a story for every scar, bruise, and broken bone, there is Nour –Domestic Violence, to provide strength, support, and solace. We do not forget that if it were not the will of Al-Asim The Protector, none of the work Nour has done would have been possible. Truly in Allah ‘azza wajal we place our trust.
“whereas physically beating another person is completely forbidden in Shari`ah.”- (Qur’an, 4:34)
April82011
Domestic Violence- Women are Half the Problem
the youtube user name is called thehappymisogynist.
How do you respond to this?
December22010
:’(
She reminded me of someone I used to know. :(
Please Watch….
(Source: awesomejuice, via honeymanifesto)
October292010
Domestic Violence, Islam, and the Unexpected Response - Huffington Post
As we should know by now, domestic violence is a crime that afflicts all communities, be them rich or poor, black or white, and regardless of their faith background. Still, the Muslim community in America suffers disproportionately. Or so many Muslims in New York believe. If a Jew or Christian commits domestic violence, will the media report it as a religious act? And this is one reason why, when domestic violence occurs between Muslims, there is increasingly strong condemnation by their leadership.
The most recent example is the tragic death of Aasiya Zubair Hassan of Orchard Park, who was apparently beheaded by her husband. The high profile Muslim couple co-founded Bridges TV, a channel dedicated to promoting a positive public face of Islam.
The response was immediate. Of course Muslim women activists such as Robina Niaz of Turning Point for Women and Families and the organization Peaceful Families Project condemned the murder, and continue their cutting edge work.
But others, from less expected quarters, were already in action.
Shaykh T.A. Bashir, the founder of House of Peace advocated for Imams to dedicate their Friday Sermon, Khutpa to this issue. Shaykh Bashir is a tall, strong, and at times very vocal African American Muslim. His specialty is educating Imams about the danger of domestic violence. He counsels them man to man and Muslim to Muslim in a way that, let’s face it, most women activists are unable to do.
As Sally MacNichol of CONNECT, a domestic violence organization that partners with House of Peace put it, “Bashir works within the Muslim communities in ways that we can’t. It’s amazing to see the quiet effect of his persistence over time. God bless him.”
Shaykh Bashir’s call was heeded by many. Imam Sulaimane Konate of Masjid Al-Aqsa (an African Mosque), spoke about the importance of treating one’s wife properly. Khonate deals with as many as twenty incidents a week, and is closely counseled by Shaykhh Bashir.
Imam Shamsi Ali, an Indonesian Muslim who represents both the Islamic Cultural Center, and the Jamaica Muslim Center, in Queens (a primarily South Asian mosque) argued that domestic violence is a community problem, not a private issue. “It is related to everyone. That is why we have to talk about it.” He also clarified several Hadith, or sayings of the prophet, that are often misinterpreted to hide domestic violence. “There is a saying of the Prophet… where he says to keep family life secrete. But he didn’t mean abuses. Abuses must be reported.”
Imam Talib Abdur-Rashid had already planned a Khutba on domestic violence when he heard that others were engaged. “We’ve been doing this for years.” He said, about his work as the senior Imam at the Mosque of Islamic Brotherhood. “Every Friday we speak about social and spiritual issues. Sometimes it’s poverty, sometimes it’s Gaza, sometimes it’s violence in the family.”
Imam Talib is acutely aware of how the domestic violence perpetrated by Muslims makes Islam look bad- even though it is against Islamic law. “How are we going to spread the word about our community and work, if we let these things happen?” he asked his community. “Domestic violence is a sin.” He says. “The Prophet… spoke about this in his last sermon.”
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